What Do Women Want?

I was reading What Do Women Want? and this stuck out to me:

“women’s desire is not relational, it’s narcissistic” — it is dominated by the yearnings of “self-love,” by the wish to be the object of erotic admiration and sexual need.

I tend to agree but I’d consider it relational.  The relation is between self and idealized self.  If a woman’s arousal is due to being idealized as an object of desire by another person, then its relational in that level of arousal would be determined by how much the other person idealizes her.

Intimacy may take second seat but I think it’s still playing a pinnacle role.  Without intimacy with a partner, then how could those idealisms be known or manifested in any meaningful way outside her mind?  The sexologist goes on to say that many if not most women prefer to receive than give.  This chick?  Being the source of pleasure appeals to my Narcissistic tendencies that considering it a chore or not something I’m more than willing to do, is alien.  I can see through the lens of cultural fetishes and the need to find answers to questions such as these but in seeking understanding it may just over complicate matters.   I can’t tell you how annoying it is to be compared to another woman, sexually or otherwise.    I’m not like other women and I can’t imagine other women are like me.  I recognize that other women have issues with self-image, intimacy and sex and seek out the ‘experts’ to alleviate their distress but what about the rest of us?  In an attempt to treat other women, those without such issues get caught up in nets to be untangled from.

Aren’t the cultural trappings enough to deal with?  I see this Free the Nipple campaign in an attempt to gain more gender equality and it just seems foolish to me.  All these Feminists are hell bent on removing the allure that is Woman that I wonder what kind of lives these women live.

censored mediaIf you ask your average American if breasts are innately sexual, you’ll most likely get a YES, which is why they should be covered.  Women breast-feeding in public places have become somewhat normalized but you still see plenty of stories about women being asked to use a private area of a public place to do it.  Carry-over from a more modest era, certainly, and the rebuttal is usually “But…Men go shirtless all the time!”   How many men?  All men?   Then go on finger pointing to places like Africa where breasts aren’t fetishized in the same way as the U.S., well duh… Culture clash.  In a modern era however, you can find plenty of breast fetishism all over the continent.  I just chalk it up to confirmation bias.  Why are women so hell bent on being treated like men anyway?  Discomfort with the den of inequity?  Any woman can tip the scales in her favor with a little know how and passion  cup-size driving the weight.


Poison Apple Radio: Rape Culture

Rape Culture

An 11 Year old girl in Paraguay denied abortion, sparks criminal case and fires off Feminist Theory of Rape Culture. So what is Rape Culture and why should I care?

Tune in with your host Sin Jones!

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This article deals with the notion that the Judicial System provides justice.  It doesn’t.  It manages crimes and criminals, it interprets laws and enforces them.  A harsh reality to young Miss Dietritch from Kentucky.  She was assaulted, a plea bargain was entered and she was silenced. She was court ordered not to release the names of her assailants because they were minors.  She is also a minor.  So she has no voice in public media to speak out against what she sees as an injustice, at least…Not calling out her offenders by name.  She took matters into her own hands when she decided to thumb her nose at the law, and Tweet the names of those little bastards that violated her.  She knew the consequences and threw caution to the wind.  Her Twitter account has since been closed (for evidence I’m sure) but the media reports on the issue.  She’s given a voice, but again the names of her offenders were omitted for their protection while her name and face is splattered over news reports.

She could face up to 180 days in jail and a $500 fine if convicted. The boys have yet to be sentenced for the August 2011 attack. “They got off very easy,” Dietrich, who says she was unaware of the plea agreement before it was announced in court, said in her interview with the newspaper.

“They said I can’t talk about it or I’ll be locked up,” Dietrich tweeted after hearing, according to the paper. “So I’m waiting for them to read this and lock me up.” “

A petition is up to have the charges dropped against her, but the damage is done.  Equally, the damage done to her by these boys has also been done.  So,what is more unjust? Or is there any need to measure, the old adage “two wrongs don’t make it right” may be relevant here but you know what, sometimes you have to go wrong to make it right.  She stated she’d be willing to do the time for her own human rights which were silenced by a court order.  A gag order on the names, is also a censorship of speech to protect these boys.  The boys will be punished for their crime, but with the plea bargain in place without her prior knowledge of it, Savannah doesn’t think its enough.

So was it revenge or did she really feel her right to speech was restrained by the courts?  I’d say its probably a bit of both.  It’s not as if she had any choice in the matter.  She was ORDERED to be silent.  She noted that she felt that she couldn’t go out in public because it was already public that SHE and by name was raped.  

She may gain some support for her cause by signing the petition.  A method among methods to try to beat the SYSTEM.  That’s really all it amounts to, a system of control that can be beaten by finding a way around it, over it, or through it.  

I’ll keep an eye on the case to see what the outcome is.  The scales of ‘justice’ are blind.  And they can be tipped in any direction, provided there’s enough weight.  

Sin Jones